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You’re probably familiar with the saying, “Sharing is caring.” But what does that mean when it comes to growth and learning, especially around personal growth and relationships?
Relationships are a place where we tend to get super private. I mean, there’s a lot that happens in our relationships that we don’t necessarily want to share with other people.
It can be challenging to admit that we don’t always know how to do relationship well or that we’re struggling when we’re trying out new things that we’re learning.
I believe that sharing your successes and your struggles helps you stick to your goals and stay accountable. It helps you keep moving forward. Plus having community support around what you’re working on is awesome!
Here are three reasons why I think it’s important to have community space to talk about what we’re working on learning and improving in our relationships.
1. Break down the relationship silo
This idea of a relationship silo, of a tight-knit, private, insular relationship is actually a very new concept.
When you’re in the silo, you can start to feel like, “What’s wrong with me? This isn’t working and nobody else seems to struggle with this.”
The relationship silo itself is part of what makes us struggle, so busting that silo open by being willing to share with one another what’s working well and what we need to improve in our relationships helps them become healthier.
2. Normalize challenges
I hear clients say to each other all the time in my group programs, “You struggle with that? I struggle with that, too. Wow it’s good to know I’m not alone or nuts!”
When we get to be in community with each other and share about what’s actually happening in our relationships and our lives, it normalizes challenges. We realize we’re not alone.
The truth is, it takes a village to grow a healthy relationship! When you expect one person to fulfill all your relational needs, like one person has to be your lover, partner, co-project manager, co-parent, best friend, and confidant it puts a lot of pressure on the connection with that one person.
3. Side door coaching
What I love about coaching in groups is this aspect of side door coaching, where somebody else says something, or receives an answer, or asks a question that you didn’t even know to ask and it unlocks a place where you were stuck and didn’t even know to ask about.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the depth and customization of one-on-one coaching. I’ve worked with clients individually for over 20 years and love it. But all you know is to ask questions you think to ask. Whereas somebody else might ask a different question that totally frees you.
Being in a learning community with one another around our relationships uplevels everyone.
If you’re getting together with your friends to collude and complain, that’s not going to have the same effect. That’s not what I’m talking about. What I’m talking about is getting together for the purpose of sharing how you’re growing, what you’re working on, what’s challenging, what’s going well, celebrating each other’s wins, and living your life more in community around matters of the heart. Because we sure need supportive communities in this world.
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