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Many of us sabotage our success without even realizing it. And it has everything to do with what we say to ourselves in our own heads. These are things like  “This is too good to be true.” Or “It’s not even worth trying because it won’t work out.” Well, with that kind of attitude, it won’t work out. So that’s why it’s important to be aware about your self-talk.

These thoughts that sabotage and bring you down, that stop you, that keep you stuck, get in the way of reaching your goals and actually having more of what you want in your life as well as more loving and connected relationships.

In this video, I’m going to share some simple ways to recalibrate what goes on in your head, so that you can have more of what you want.

1. Tune into what’s going on in your head.

Get curious about what your head is telling you. It’s simply information.

Don’t beat yourself up. If you don’t like what you hear in your head, don’t go into shame about it, or guilt about it. It’s just information about stuff that’s operating behind the scenes.

And it’s actually great that you can hear it, because then you can actually do something about it.

Awareness is the first step to change.

2. Make your thoughts welcome.

There’s this idea that we’re supposed to have positive thoughts all the time and push away the negative thoughts. But what you resist persists.

So, if you’re trying to push away any thoughts you don’t like, they’re going to tend to come back and bite you in the ass.

Instead, make your thoughts welcome. Like, “Hi, you’re allowed to be here, I’m gonna keep doing my thing. You can stay over here to the side, but you’re welcome to be here.”

This lowers your resistance and allows you to keep moving.

3. Ask a better question.

Notice the tone of your self-talk and notice if you’re asking a lot of WHY questions, like, “Why is it this way?” Or “ Why am I like this?”

Shift to HOW and WHAT questions instead.

WHY doesn’t activate your curiosity and it doesn’t activate action. WHY activates loops of thinking that just keeps you stuck, whereas if you start asking yourself, “Well, how could I XYZ?” Or “What do I need to do to XYZ?” you activate your mind’s capacity for problem solving.

And then you’re more likely to take action towards your goals and make them happen.

4. Check if you’ve hit an upper limit.

Intensification of self-talk toward the negative often happens when you hit an upper limit.

An upper limit is the most amount of good that your subconscious allows you to have in your life.

To have more good in your life beyond that threshold, you actually have to get your subconscious on board. How you do that is by being grateful for and acknowledging the good that is already here.

Instead of staying stuck in thought loops like, “I’m going to lose this, this is too good to be true,” shift your thoughts to, “Wow, this is so great! I’m so happy that I’ve met this incredible person, or that my business is doing so well!”

In this way you expand your upper limit and CAN have more good in your life than you’ve ever had before.

5. Ask yourself who you’d be and how you’d show up if that limit or belief weren’t there.

If that limit weren’t there.

For example, if  you believed you were worthy of having the thing you want, how would you show up? Who would you be if you believed you deserve to have this? If you believed you belong?

What would you say? What would you do?

Then go say and do that  Because when you say and do that, you communicate that you know you’re worthy and more good comes your way.

It’s a loop, a feedback loop, because the world is a mirror.

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